MY kids grandma lives interstate and hasnt made much effort with my children has asked my daughter to come on hoildays interstate, as shes getting older. My daughter is not interested and has asked why she doesnt hear from her like other three grandparents on a few seperate occasions. I declined the holiday and used age as an excuse, but now my daughter is expressing a desire to visit another set of grandparents (who are also desperate to have her, but understand my situation) I dont know how to tackle this? I am more then ok with her going to her close grandparents but I dont want it to mean she has to go to her grandmothers that she doesnt want to go to? I also feel frustrated that I cant allow her to have memories with her active grandparents just to save feelings! HELP!